Sex-Life Guides

A 'how to' guide for men who want their erections to last a satisfactory time with consistent reliability

The Facts about Premature Ejaculation

You are not alone.
Thirty 8% of men experience problems with lasting in sex as long as they/their partner wants to before they ejaculate.

Definition:
Premature ejaculation is 'when you don't last as long as you or your partner want to.'

Regaining Control:
You can learn to satisfy yourself and your partner by regaining control.

Knowledge:
Men with premature ejaculation can learn new sexual techniques easily.

There are Three Common Difficulties with Premature Ejaculation

• Unsure about sexual technique
• Unable to satisfy your partner
• Have no control over ejaculation

Common Obstacles to Overcoming Premature Ejaculation

The following list includes the most common obstacles to achieving and maintaining erections:

1. Anxious about sexual performance
2. Thinking it will improve with time
3. Blaming it on her, the alcohol, or being tired
4. Avoiding sex
5. Not able to enjoy sex and it always ending in frustration
6. Using remedies like alcohol, sprays and injections
7. Trying to think about other things during sex to last longer (this makes it worse)
8. Feeling inadequate as a man and lover
9. Thinking "I'm single or not having sex so I don't need to do anything about it"
10. Stress/illness/unhealthy lifestyle

Your Step-by-Step Program to Preventing Premature Ejaculation

Relax
• Relax and don't pressure yourself to perform
• Make the sex conditions right for you

Communicate
• Communicate with your partner about sex and talk about what you both want

Alternative
• Have sex without penetration
• Explore each other's bodies and have fun
• Don't stop having sexual contact just because you ejaculate

Technique
• Learn how your sexual responses work
• Gain control through masturbation
• Learn the 'stop/start' technique

Arousal
• Teach your partner to slow down when you need to
• Understand the 'point of no return' and how to delay it

Don't 'Save it Up'
• 'Saving it up' won't make it more reliable
• Frequent masturbation is actually recommended
• If you can control your ejaculation while you masturbate you have the potential to control it during intercourse

Case Studies

How Some Men Learned to Prevent Premature Ejaculation and Maintain Erections for a Satisfactory Time

Bill, 25 a high flyer, had always come too quickly. He worked hard and played hard and although he could attract women he never lasted quite long enough when having sex. Bill felt inadequate about the stories all the other guys described and just wished he could do something about it. After three weeks counselling, Bill was able to last as long as he liked and had gained control permanently.

John, 35 a public servant, experienced premature ejaculation in the last few years and told no one about his problem because he was ashamed and embarrassed. It was difficult for him to pinpoint a reason, He had been married for five years and felt disappointed and angry that he couldn't satisfy his wife even though she said it didn't matter. Therapy included talking with his wife about sex and learning about his normal ejaculation cycle through masturbation. After six weeks John was overjoyed as he could satisfy his wife for the first time. His wife was also more interested in sex.

Highly-Recommended Reading:
For your erections:
Biopotency: A Guide to Sexual Success
Berger & Berger

For your relationship:
Men am from Mars, Women are from Venus
John Gray