A 'how to' guide for men who want their erections to last
a satisfactory time with consistent reliability
© Dr Janet Hall
The Facts about Premature Ejaculation
You are not alone.
Thirty 8% of men experience problems with lasting in sex as long as they/their
partner wants to before they ejaculate.
Definition:
Premature ejaculation is 'when you don't last as long as you or your
partner want to.'
Regaining Control:
You can learn to satisfy yourself and your partner by regaining control.
Knowledge:
Men with premature ejaculation can learn new sexual techniques easily.
There are Three Common Difficulties with Premature Ejaculation
• Unsure about sexual technique
• Unable to satisfy your partner
• Have no control over ejaculation
Common Obstacles to Overcoming Premature Ejaculation
The following list includes the most common obstacles to achieving and
maintaining erections:
1. Anxious about sexual performance
2. Thinking it will improve with time
3. Blaming it on her, the alcohol, or being tired
4. Avoiding sex
5. Not able to enjoy sex and it always ending in frustration
6. Using remedies like alcohol, sprays and injections
7. Trying to think about other things during sex to last longer (this
makes it worse)
8. Feeling inadequate as a man and lover
9. Thinking "I'm single or not having sex so I don't need to do anything
about it"
10. Stress/illness/unhealthy lifestyle
Your Step-by-Step Program to Preventing Premature Ejaculation
Relax
• Relax and don't pressure yourself to perform
• Make the sex conditions right for you
Communicate
• Communicate with your partner about sex and talk about what you
both want
Alternative
• Have sex without penetration
• Explore each other's bodies and have fun
• Don't stop having sexual contact just because you ejaculate
Technique
• Learn how your sexual responses work
• Gain control through masturbation
• Learn the 'stop/start' technique
Arousal
• Teach your partner to slow down when you need to
• Understand the 'point of no return' and how to delay
it
Don't 'Save it Up'
• 'Saving it up' won't make it more reliable
• Frequent masturbation is actually recommended
• If you can control your ejaculation while you masturbate you have
the potential to control it during intercourse
Case Studies
How Some Men Learned to Prevent Premature Ejaculation and Maintain
Erections for a Satisfactory Time
Bill, 25 a high flyer, had always come too quickly. He worked hard and
played hard and although he could attract women he never lasted quite
long enough when having sex. Bill felt inadequate about the stories all
the other guys described and just wished he could do something about it.
After three weeks counselling, Bill was able to last as long as he liked
and had gained control permanently.
John, 35 a public servant, experienced premature ejaculation in the last
few years and told no one about his problem because he was ashamed and
embarrassed. It was difficult for him to pinpoint a reason, He had been
married for five years and felt disappointed and angry that he couldn't
satisfy his wife even though she said it didn't matter. Therapy included
talking with his wife about sex and learning about his normal ejaculation
cycle through masturbation. After six weeks John was overjoyed as he could
satisfy his wife for the first time. His wife was also more interested
in sex.
Highly-Recommended Reading:
For your erections:
Biopotency: A Guide to Sexual Success
Berger & Berger
For your relationship:
Men am from Mars, Women are from Venus
John Gray