How to Super-boost Your Sex-life
© Dr Janet Hall
Psychologist, Accelerated Success Centre, Melbourne, Australia (www.sex-therapy.com.au)
There's no doubt about it! A good sex-life can contribute to mental, emotional and physical well-being.
Unfortunately though, there are many reasons that our sexual switch can be put on hold...or worse... seemingly permanently turned off! Here's some examples:
John had been in a particularly unhappy marriage for many years. His wife never liked sex and never wanted sex. A man with strong ethical values, John could not allow himself to seek pleasure elsewhere, so he stopped thinking about sex.
Amy had been a good mother and good wife to her family. She dutifully had sex with her husband twice a week when he instigated it. She was proud that he could never say that she rejected his advances but always felt that there was something flat about their sex-life. She had never experienced orgasm and wondered what all the fuss was about it.
When he had a nervous breakdown and left the marriage, Amy decided that she was going to learn how to really turn on her sexual switch. She was determined to learn to orgasm.
Mark was in love with his gorgeous girlfriend, Rebecca, but they rarely had sex.
In the early days of their relationship, Rebecca had made a comment about the ideal size of a man's penis. Mark was particularly self-conscious about the size of his own penis, which he always thought was inadequate. He turned his sex switch down so that he did not have to risk the personal embarrassment of feeling 'less than a man' for Rebecca.
Jill had been under a lot of pressure at work. Her job was extremely demanding and she worked long hours including continuous weeks of travel. Her life was a whirl. Who had time for sex?