I want to talk to you briefly about a few cases I’ve worked on where women have had problems with orgasms. Some have never had orgasms before.
Linda was 22, engaged, and wanted to learn how to have orgasms so she could have good sex with her husband.
Susannah was 45 and had never had an orgasm, and she was single. She wanted to learn how to let herself experience pleasure.
Some women can learn to have an orgasm through masturbation, but not with their partner. Like Mary, who was 25. She could have an orgasm through solo sex, which is totally safe and highly recommended, but Mary could never have an orgasm with her partner.
Michelle, who was 36, and had orgasms with her vibrator, her hand, but never with her partner’s hand, partner’s tongue (oral sex) and certainly never with intercourse.
Julie had basically created a fetish of sorts – she could only have an orgasm by rubbing her clitoris with a HB pencil (I almost said to her ‘careful not to use the pointy bit!’).
Lena, who was 24, said the her husband was going to dump her if she couldn’t learn to orgasm with intercourse!
Make sure you watch my other youtube video on the: truth about women, orgasms and vaginal penetration.
Grace, who was 45, was excited because her husband had finally taken some Viagra and was able to have an erection. Naturally, she wanted to see if she could learn to have intercourse orgasms.
So as you can see, there are many reasons why, women want to have orgasms and what things there are that stop them. And sometimes when they ask for help, its simply not there for them.
For instance, medical help. I’ve worked with some women where the doctor that they’ve seen has even put them off the idea of achieving orgasms. There was Lara, who had a back injury. She was 50, and when she went to her GP, (who was female, by the way, not a male GP who simply didn’t care), she said ‘Lara, you’re 50. And at the age of 50, you should be over sex’.
50! My goodness. Why cant you have orgasms until the day your eyes quietly close for good!
Francesca asked her local male doctor for advice on orgasms and he said, ‘Orgasms are overrated – don’t worry about it’. Incredible!